Kelly proudly wears our Society Tee after overcoming an eating disorder earlier in her life. She now empowers herself and others by using Instagram to help those who are overcoming similar disorders. Kelly opens up about what triggered her anorexia and the wisdom she’d like to be able to give to her 12 year old self.
Profession: Academic Researcher for a University, and Studying the Social, Environmental and Genetic Factors of Childhood Obesity
Ararose Dress Size: Small
What is your favourite/most inspiring quote?
I have so many that are from Brené Brown, but I think I’m going to choose this one.
“You are imperfect, you are wired for struggle but you are worthy of love and belonging”
What part of your body do you love the most?
This is a hard question because I don’t want to glorify certain parts of my body and diminish others, but I would say that I’m definitely proud of my legs. The reason is because when I was younger I always had a stockier build and thicker legs. I felt so uncomfortable with them because I always saw lankier thinner legs in magazines. There’s nothing wrong with those, but it always made me feel there was something wrong with mine – but I’ve embraced them. I love how muscular they are, and now I enjoy seeing them even grow in size!
When you were growing up can you remember being aware of what you looked like? Were you influenced by anything in particular?
I was obsessed, really obsessed, with extremely thin girls that I saw in magazines and televisions shows like Disney Channel. I knew that I looked different, also being Asian I knew that I looked different to other people – but I think my parents did a good job of never pointing out our flaws. When I was about 10 years old a little boy I had a crush on in my grade called me chubby after school. It really triggered me with all of my struggles about my body image at that time, which all came to fruition – and thats when I became anorexic.
What do you enjoy doing in your spare time?
I really love travelling. I like going on trips with people, taking photos, exploring new places and walking. I love exercising! I love just enjoying time talking to people about inner most feelings and thoughts, and just creating a space where we all feel like we are loving and supporting each other.
Who do you look up to and why?
I really look up to anyone who is self aware. I don’t idolise certain celebrities or people – I love and admire so many people. I think that I just love human beings who are open to learning more about themselves and their struggles; people who are able to vocalise their struggles and want to learn everyday. Honestly, day to day I meet people who inspire me, and I think people who want to be introspective are amazing.
What advice would you give to your twelve year old self?
I would say to her its okay to be the way you are. I know that you feel different and you look different. I know you think there’s a right way to be, and you feel that the way you are is wrong. I know you feel that your struggles you have with your food and body are weird, and you feel like a fricking alien. But I promise you, you deserve to realise you are not alone and nothing is wrong with you. I encourage you to keep telling that to yourself everyday, so you don’t keep spiralling into your struggles and behaviours.
What advice would you like to share with other women?
My advice is that all women deserve to realise their value. I think its really hard in society, we have so many things around us and we always feel like we have to do better, be better, and try harder. I would like all women to know they are wonderful and worthy exactly the way they are. You don’t have to prove yourself to anyone, the only person you really have to show up for is yourself. Are you happy? Are you fulfilled? If not, make sure that you’re taking time to pursue yourself because you are so worth it.
Kelly wears Society T shirt
Find Kelly on Instagram @_kellyu